Affair Recovery & Infidelity Counselling in Nantwich

A steady space for both of you, after trust has been broken.

An affair has surfaced, and the ground has gone from under you both. One of you is trying to understand how it happened, and whether you can ever trust again. The other is living with the weight of what they did, trying to work out how to be genuinely sorry without drowning in it. The conversations go round in circles. The same questions, the same 2am replays, the same flinch every time the phone lights up.

Whatever has brought you here — a confession, a discovery, a betrayal one of you has carried alone for a long time — you're welcome, and you don't have to have decided anything yet.

The quiet fear underneath a lot of these enquiries is the one nobody says out loud: that coming to therapy means you've already decided to stay, or already decided to go. You haven't, and you don't have to. This can simply be a place to slow the panic down enough to hear yourselves think — and then to decide, together or apart, from somewhere steadier than crisis.

Where couples often are when they come

• One of you needs to understand why, and the answers so far haven't touched it

• One of you is trying to show remorse, but every attempt seems to make it worse

• You're stuck replaying the details and can't find a way out of the loop

• You want to rebuild but don't know whether trust can actually be remade

• You're not sure the relationship survives this — and you need a steady place to find out

How I work — Imago Relationship Therapy

I use Imago Relationship Therapy, which is well suited to this kind of rupture because it slows things down and helps you actually hear each other, rather than re-running the same painful exchange. We won't rush to paper over what's happened. We'll make room for the hurt, for the honesty, and — if it's there to be found — for repair. I see you together; I don't take sides; and I won't tell you whether to stay or go. That decision is yours, and I'll hold the space steady while you find it.

What this work tends to open up

I make no promises about whether a relationship survives an affair — that wouldn't be honest, and it isn't mine to promise. What this work can offer is a way to talk about it that doesn't make things worse, a clearer understanding of how you each got here, and the chance to make a real decision rather than a panicked one — whatever that decision turns out to be.

Practicalities

Couples sessions are 60 minutes (£75), in central Nantwich or online via Zoom across the UK, including Crewe and South Cheshire. The first session is a chance for me to hear from both of you, at your own pace, about what's happened and what you each need now.

More on couples therapy here.